My son and I visited the cemetery this morning and there was the bronze marker installed over the place my mother's body was buried. The marker had the requisite items, Lesley R. Kellers December 25, 1922 - October 24th 2006: simple and informative for the friends and family who remembered, knew and loved her. But inscribed in the marker was "Mom" --just like that, with the quotation marks and adorned with a bronze rose.
The author of this marker apparently couldn't bring herself to carve a simple Mom into the plaque, she had to quote it as if it was some alias of which she had no personal experience --it was a name that other people used and experienced, but not my sister. The rose embossed on the marker was a token of my sister's control --her e-mail address:Ride50rose@aol.com-- and that bronze rose is just another symbol of my sister's pathological controlling nature. Buried there was someone else's "Mom"; Dianne stamped a token of her idiotic e-mail address into the permanent memorial of my mother's resting place. She was some other "Mom" to my sister -- a means to her personal end, but never her real mother --just another piece of her empty and pathetic existence. There would be no surprise if she marked out my mother's grave with her own urine libation to claim that space as her own.
When the day comes for my sister to have her own bronze marker, I think someone should carve a quoted "human being" into the memorial. It would be an alias to which only a few people might relate.. Dianne Nungesser, May 22nd, 1948 "Human Being" If I'm still around then, I'll probably add a question mark.